Recovering

July12

I must apologize for being so absent as a blogger.  I have enjoyed becoming more and more active over the past several months, but the end of June really took its toll on me.  Though my midwife and I were thinking that my due date was in fact June 30th, there was also a possibility that I would not be due until July 12 (today).  I was trying to keep my spirits up, but as June rolled on, I was starting to feel very uncomfortable and very pregnant.  Rather than take time to get things done around the house while Daphne napped, I was  running for my own bed for an afternoon nap.  The waiting game was really starting to wear on me a lot, especially when I started showing early signs of labor 8 days before he was born.  It really had me on a bit of a roller coaster.  After putting Daphne to bed, I was doing laundry, housework and other random life organization so that I wouldn’t have to worry about doing those things after the baby was born, so blogging was thrown out the window.

There were a few things that I had overlooked about having another baby that have really been taking my time and attention.  Though I knew that the delivery would be fairly trying, I thought that I would bounce back quickly and have no real troubles doing the things I normally do.  I considered making some food and freezing it for when the baby was born.  I decided against it because cooking comes so easily to me that I thought there would be no need.  After all, it is simple to put a baby in a sling to cook.  HOWEVER, I didn’t consider the fact that I would be too sore to even stand up.

Having a birth center birth was wonderful.  At the hospital they come and interrupt you at every possible minute, so it is more like being in prison than recovering from having a baby.  At the birth center, they have 24 hour postpartum care.  The staff was there to change the sheets if I wanted or draw me a bath.  I got water when I wanted it and smoothies when I requested them.  We even had the option of getting lunch and dinner as takeout from any restaurant that we desired in the area.  It was peaceful and helpful.  They also keep a good watch on the recovery of the mama and the baby to make sure things are going well.  I got some simple help with nursing so I could make sure that things were fine when I got home.

I probably would have stayed at the birth center for much longer except for the fact that Daphne was going wild.  We were in the smallest room (by choice), but Daphne had taken to running around the birth center from top to bottom.  She had way more energy than could be kept in that one small room.  Jared took her to the zoo for one Morning, which was nice.  I probably would have stayed that additional day except that it was becoming too difficult to deal with Daphne’s extra energy.

The first 2 days at home were fairly uneventful.  I was able to make a little food and take care of the baby, even Daphne was starting to calm down.  My sister came to visit the baby and help out a little bit, which was nice.

Things were definitely looking up except for the fact that I was not healing very well from my tear.  Things were still really sore and irritated, and I didn’t understand why.  I finally made an appointment to go back to have a postpartum check up.  I wasn’t thrilled about driving all the way to Portland to do it, but it turns out that it was a good idea.  All the stitches had torn out somewhere along the way, and were in need of repair.  The flesh was irritated and starting to get infected and really in need of some care.  Rather than just stitch me back up, they suggested that I be readmitted to the birth center for the night.  Daphne , Eli and my sister left without Cyprus and I.

I wasn’t prepared to be anywhere overnight.  I had no entertainment.  Nothing to read, nothing to watch and my phone was dying.  I was tired and sore, so I spent my time sleeping and taking sitz baths.  I did have my camera with me, so I took a bunch of photos of the baby while we hung out.  It was nice to be just the two of us.  I liked having the attention to devote to getting to know him, and he is pretty darn cute.

I realized that Daphne’s energy was driving me a little over the edge while I was dealing with such a painful recovery.  The peace helped me heal enough so they could fix the tear.  She spent a good 2 hours working on getting it stitched back up.  Unfortunately, the Lydocaine was not very helpful, so I felt a lot of the stitching process, which was not much fun for me.

I’ve been spending the last 8 days since she made the repair laying in bed trying to feel better.  I’m still really sore and in a lot of pain, and the truth is that it looks like some more of the stitches have started to come out again.  My midwife said this is definitely one of the most difficult recoveries that she has seen, and she’s been to over 900 births.  I am going to see her on Tuesday so she can take the stitches out and maybe try healing this thing another way.

Meanwhile, Daphne is still running around needing lots of attention.  I’ve been placating her with TV where possible, which I feel very guilty about.  Jared had to make a business trip out of town from Wed-Sat of this past week, so we have been on our own to some degree.  Luckily, I have had some lovely friends around who have been wiling to come and hang out with me and make me food.  I have been blessed incredibly by all of that help.   Daphne is trying so hard to adjust, and I love and admire her effort.  She still is my baby in many ways.  Look at these gorgeous eyes.

I even started to feel better yesterday.  Jared, Daphne and I left the house for a little while to go to a local festival.  We were gone for about an hour and a half.  We walked around very slowly and looked at some things then got some food and came home.  It was nice to get out of the house.

I edited up about 300 photos yesterday, so now I am working on getting them posted along with the stories that go with them.  Sorry about being gone, but I am starting to feel good enough to get back on the blogging horse.

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